Some feel consoled by leaving a place at the table for the absent person, but many others find that much more discomforting because it is a visual reminder of the vacancy. You may, therefore, choose to remember the person in a smaller way. I have made ornaments with pictures of departed...
Finally, some listeners reported aspontaneous vacancy or absence. Their sense of self and of their surroundings spontaneously receded from awareness. Herbert has some ideas as to why music facilitates dissociation and detachment. Music (especially music without lyrics) does not have a fixed meaning....