When you are no longer judging and criticizing yourself, you will stop criticizing others. Criticism is a form of control. The person criticizing hopes to either change the other person with criticism or make themselves feel one-up by putting someone one-down. When you learn to define your ow...
“Even now, when he comes over I find myself criticizing him, being mean. I love him dearly but I can’t seem to stop… and it drives him crazy.” She stopped for a moment. “Well, I mean, it’s driven him away!” Once bitten, twice shy The marriage had been good in many wa...
What I do is work every day to soften my attitude and develop wisdom by studying and meditating. A soft heart and wise mind is not a weakness, it never was. On the contrary, I feel like I have a stronger backbone to do what’s right for myself and others. I am not as easily sw...
I spent a lot of time literally frozen in a state of overwhelm and as the moments of my life ticked by, I was in fact, my own worst enemy – my only enemy, really. I found myself stuck in cycles that brought me disease, yet felt unclear onhow to change my life for the better....
How to critique other writers’ work. As a writer, it helps to be thick-skinned. Once you put your work out there, people will judge, review, and criticize it. But critiques are more helpful when they are received long before publication. In fact, critiques are one of the best ways to...
When the target finally lashes out, the reactive abuser may even smirk or celebrate and say something like: “See! You [insert offense] too. I just do it to defend myself. At the very most, we're both guilty!” The assailant will do everything in their power to frame themselves as ...
(猛力地划)to the shore. I fled, but in vain. He overtok me, seized me violently, and threw me into the deepest part of ther pool. I soon climbed out on the other side, and found myself surrounded by a crowd of younger boys.“Do you know what you have done?”they said,“It’...
Speaker 2:I think that's where the waters get a bit muddy that most people don't really understand true. Self-compassion they, they see it as perhaps I need to treat myself, I need to do something special for myself. But for a lot of folks, it's about giv...
“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ~ Louise L. Hay Self-sabotage is more prevalent than we realize. Did you know that Abraham Lincoln, Fred Rogers, Michelangelo, John F.
Self-kindness: Compassion starts with being gentle with yourself. Instead of getting upset or criticizing yourself, you're supportive and caring. Imagine how you comfort a friend who is upset—self-kindness is doing that for yourself. Common humanity: It’s important to remind yourself that eve...