Recovering from this infidelityrequires both spouses to offer empathy for the other. It also requires each of them to not wallow in their own self-pity. Yes, they both feel terrible about what has happened to them. But consider the feelings of the other person. The more you both can focus...
When you’re dealing with something as life-changing as infidelity, this type of news can take a toll on youemotionally as well as physically. For instance, you may want to shut out the outside world and not see or talk to anyone. You may notice that you have difficulty concentrating at...
If he hasn’t moved on, he’ll be constantly looking for signs that you’re cheating and trying torestrict your freedomto make it harder for you to cheat. He might even say things like“all women cheat if they get the chance”or“everyone cheats on me.”He’ll also constantly bring u...
PTSD and romantic relationships may be challenging for some people when it comes to forming new relationships due to the lingering effects of trauma, while others may be able to develop and maintain healthy relationships with appropriate support and coping strategies. But there’s hope for healing....
If the decision is to stay, how to forgive and move forward. How did the affair become possible? For the relationship to heal, and for there to be any chance of forgiveness, there has to be an understanding of how both people may have contributed to the problem. What was missing in th...
childhood trauma are) and I knew talk therapy wouldn’t do much for me. It’s not that I’m stubborn; when it comes to healing, I’m one of the hardest working people I know. But something deep down inside of me knew that talking about what happened wouldn’t help me heal. ...
Trust in an intimate relationship is rooted in feeling safe with another person. Infidelity, lies, or broken promises can severely damage the trust between partners, even leading totrust issues. However, when trust is broken, this does not necessarily mean that the relationship can't be salvaged...
External events: natural disasters, evil vampires, car accidents, or sociopathic killers at the office Christmas party are all examples of external events that can act as obstacles to a love story. Internal Obstacles: Emotional baggage: Past trauma, heartbreak, or unresolved issues can affect the ...
This isn’t just fluff; it’s aboutchanging the conversationin your mind to rebuild self-worth after being knocked down by infidelity. Your words have power—use them to lift yourself up! Avoid “What-If” thinking Let those “what-if” thoughts float by like clouds. Dwelling o...
Infidelity and Divorce Marriage and Couples Counseling Addiction and Impulse Control PTSD/Trauma/Abuse Bio: I have been a licensed psychologist specializing in marriage counseling and other adult relationship counseling here in Houston, Texas since 1987. More than 90% of my clients have had such rela...