When you’re missing someone who died, you don’t want to hear that food is “to die for” or be told your life will be incomplete if you don’t make a particular meal “before you die.”Such phrases highlight the absence of the deceased, who will never have the chance to taste t...
The first Thanksgiving after someone dies (and the second and the third and the next and the next …) is harder than you can imagine if you haven’t yet lost a loved one. Like so much of living with loss, the absence throbs. Traditions might serve as lifelines to keep mourners steady...
“treat [your friend] as you would treat anybody you care about who is grieving and in pain.” so, offer your condolences. attend the funeral if you can. send flowers and a handwritten note. “all of these acknowledge that something really tragic has happened for the person, and it ...
Do something for someone else.Yeah, I know you would sooner kick someone as do something nice for them right now. I mean, they’re on your last nerve! You know as well as I do that in the long run you never feel better after acting out. Avoid it and do something nice for someone...
Not everyone is grieved in a big, formal way. Although most families hold some sort of memorial service when a loved one dies, there are times when there...
greatest number of people. This feeling of urgency has been multiplied 100-fold in the last two months, as several close friends have died in accidents no one saw coming. Life is fucking short. Put another way: a long life is far from guaranteed. Nearly everyone dies before they’re ...
However, if you already know and love someone with Down's syndrome, you will have a sense that this is not the end of the world, that you will gently guide and support this family. So what do you say and do? Before Natty was born I had never been in this position in my life.....
Not everyone is grieved in a big, formal way. Although most families hold some sort of memorial service when a loved one dies, there are times when there...
How could I post new material about what to say when someone dies while my dear uncle lay slowly dying? Time and again, my grief over his too imminent passing rebooted feelings I experienced while caring for his sister — my mom — as she neared the end of her life more than 20 years...
Hello, again. You might have noticed the July to April gap in new posts onWhat to Say When Someone Dies. Years ago, I first started writing content for this grief support website within three days of my husband’s unexpected death, although I didn’t know at the time that’s what I...