Why do people stay in such toxic relationships? The allure of the familiar.Some people consciously or unconsciously recreate family-of-origin relationships in their love lives. Trish, the daughter of analcoholic, drug-abusing father, had two unhappy marriages with drug-abusing alcoholics. “I think...
I don’t know what I’ll do just yet but a decision is making its way to the surface. I really hope we can change an come together. I love them so much even with all things that make me sad I know one day light will come back to them an life of a full heart with kindness,...
Passive or permissive: Passive — also known as permissive — parents will avoid confrontation at all costs. They have difficulty maintaining expectations for their children and typically won’t set boundaries or demands. The household tends to have little structure, and they rarely punish their chil...
My husband knowing I run a tight ship and the chaos this has brought into our household has me struggling. I don’t function well in chaos, he is going the extra mile to, what feels like torture. I’m afraid I may spiral out of control if I can’t grasp my boundaries and get ...
The undercurrent within the household is one of pervasive fear. The victims living within the home do their best to stay on their abuser’s good side or stay away from him. The best way to not be his enemy is to attempt to befriend him. But to keep everyone in their proper place, th...
It’s focused yet impersonal, targeting whomever they perceive as vulnerable out of the herd. To lure some victims some psychopaths may invest a lot of energy and time in appearing loving, caring, nice, committed and faithful. But that mask usually cracks as soon as they believe they got ...
In my household of all introverts, “I want to kill everyone in the world right now” is the usual shorthand version for, I am in a terrible mood and need some serious alone time right now. None of us view it as at all threatening, because we all know each other. I wouldn’t be...
I pray that the Heavenly Father with continue to bestow all of his blessing on you and your household. P.S. I hope that you get your health problems under control. I have had high blood pressure problems but have gotten it under control with herbs. I have not dealt with diabetes, but...
Despite a loving and supportive upbringing, her codependent tendencies and empathic nature made her vulnerable, yet these same qualities also became her strengths in her journey to freedom. In this powerful episode, Melissa unfolds her intense five-month transition from the moment she decided to ...
• "I haven't yet" implies choice, where "don't" and "can't" imply just the opposite: finality. Lack of choice is directly connected to enmeshment. By saying, "I haven't yet," you open the door to new behavior in the future. ...