verbal(言语的)fights canleaveboth sidesbloodied.Evenwhenyouwin,youendupnobetteroff.Youwouldbefeelingalmostasbadifargumentswereevenjust competitions -like,say,tennis tourmaments.Pairs of opponents hit the ball back and forthuntilonewinnercomesoutfromallwhoentered.Everybodyelseloses.Thiskindof thinking...