For me, where those behaviors started and were adopted is that I grew up learning that I needed to be perfect and to people please and be the best at everything so that I could get myself out of a situation that I felt like I otherwise wouldn't ...
For me, that perfectionism and people-pleasing was so critical to that point in my life. 对我来说,当时我的眼里只有这种完美主义和讨好型人格。 But then when I just put it on autopilot, it went way past the point of diminishing returns and often became unhealthy for me. 但是当时我任其发展...
5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone 5. 不刻意讨好他人 Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They striv...
For me, that perfectionism and people-pleasing was so critical to that point in my life. 对我来说,当时我的眼里只有这种完美主义和讨好型人格。 But then when I just put it on autopilot, it went way past the point of 但是当时我任其发展,给我带来的好处逐渐被伤害取代, diminishing returns and ...
suddenly, I am available to talk to you, I am available to live. So when we're treating addiction, sure, we got to get people sober from whatever their addictive pattern is, but then we need to get them out of the self-harming behaviors so that when they look in the mirror, they'...
If no two people are the same, no two people's love is the same either. So, in every loving relationship, there's a lot to talk about and partners should be open to that, or the relationship probably won't last. Love is always up for discussion and, sure, under construction. So,...
What’s the best way to get people to change their behavior? In this funny, information-packed talk, psychologist Dan Ariely explores why we make bad decisions even when we know we shouldn’t — and discusses a couple tricks that could get us to do the right thing (even if it’s for...
You might all say, "Obvious, they're different." So if it is so obvious, why do we so often give one instruction to different people expecting the sameoutcome7? That's what we're going to talk about today. So, what I did is that, all the way from Mexico city, I brought the fo...
Sheena Iyengar studies how we make choices -- and how we feel about the choices we make. At TEDGlobal, she talks about both trivial choices (Coke v. Pepsi) and profound ones, and shares her groundbreaking research that has uncovered some surprising attit
Everyone has a dream,Now I'll talk about my dream,What is my dream? I oftenask myself. Now I am a young girl with a new dream——to be a doctor. I want to be afamous doctor, helping the sick and saving their lives. Why has my dreamchanged? Well, at the age of 11 I was ...