People who struggle with saying no for fear of disapproval or rejection are known as “people-pleasers.” A people-pleaser (aka a “nice girl” or “nice guy” aka “codependent” aka “person with anxious attachment”) is a person who almost always puts the needs and feelings of others ...
independence, and certitude we admire. Over time, we can start to think that unlike us, they’re selfish. In fact, we probably wouldn’t be attracted to someone of the opposite sex who is as kind and pleasing as we are. We would consider them weak, because deep down...
Thing is, there are always other people who depend on us to get stuff done, and a person who drops the ball literally all the time because they’d rather be at home in their PJs, watching cartoons and playing video games, gets really tiresome, really quickly. This is especially true in...
Opinions vary on how "real" this reality tv show is. Whatever it is, this series stands on its own as an intriguing study on human behavior. It begins, true to its title as a depiction of a family living off the grid in Alaska. Father Billy strikes me as a fast-talking con who is...
That’s why you work so hard to please everyone, because if people don’t like you for who you are, then they’ll like you for what you do for them, right? You’re really just trying to buy love and affection with your kindness or acts of service. ...
but there’s still a long way to go and much more to achieve. So, thank you for sharing that with us. Roberto, I wanted to ask you what is your final thought, as we’ve been listening to this conversation, for our listeners out there who are in organizations who are considering this...
not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we're very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It's as if we've divided the world into "those who offer help" and "those who need help." The truth is that we are bo...
5. They are Self-Reliant Those who intentionally take the lone path tend to be self-sufficient. They rely on themselves heavily for physical, financial, and emotional support. They’re able to self-soothe and improve their mood on their own. They’ll rather do so than call up a friend ...
You may become enmeshed in acodependent relationshipwith the manipulator or try harder to please them. Other signs of emotional trauma include difficulty trusting and putting the person's needs over yours. I once dated someone who successfully manipulated me before I knew what narcissism and manipula...
Let’s go back to the example of the friend who is moving. You can respond to this request with empathic assertion by saying something like, “I know how stressful moving is, but I have another obligation this weekend.” This sounds a lot more caring than a simple, “no”. In a way...