The Alpha fears social abandonment and loss of civic and or physical power the most. The Beta tends to fear losing access to perks socially supporting the Alphas bring them as illusory signs that person has some special kind of clout or personal status. Enablers strive to be legitimized, pra...
The one thing that keeps me steadfast in my decision of NC is any break of that gives him full control and he would smugly use it to make my life miserable. It’s so easy to slide back just because loneliness or familiarity, yet I also know what that would bring and I’d end upon...
The thing about a narcissist is that they’d try tostir uptheir ex-partner’s emotions so that the latter would end up asking for another chance. Thinking back on how those conversations went after the break-up, I think that a narcissist would always come back to an old relationship in ...
Nancy the Narcissist or Bob the Borderline manufactures a conflict. They name call, make shit up, blow things out of proportion, gaslight, project, threaten divorce, pout, rage — you know, the usual. After several hours of this, you say, “Will you just shut up, man?!” And then, t...
Husband continues to move/hide paintings, furniture, jewelry, common household items and all along acts as if his wife is losing touch with reality. Thecoups de gras, however, is with the gas lamps. Every evening, when he leaves for his ‘walk’ the gas lamps noticeably dim. Not only do...
What this means:The more a narcissist can confuse their victims, the easier it becomes to make them bend to their will. This campaign of trickery and deceit is to slowly persuade their victims that they are losing their minds. This method permits the narcissist to write his or her own scri...
And so comes the abrupt, anticlimactic end of our story, which was simply about the intersection of our neighborhood child with the unsuspecting spider. Postscript:The child spared the spider, not from compassion, but because a cramp in his leg prompted him to rise, and stretch. But in walk...
Even if we don’t take them back, the most dangerous time for a person is when they first break up with a psychopath. The psychopath feels rage at being discarded. Losing control or power over a person is not just a narcissistic injury for them; they feel profoundly empty when their par...
break of that gives him full control and he would smugly use it to make my life miserable. It’s so easy to slide back just because loneliness or familiarity, yet I also know what that would bring and I’d end upon the losing end. Cognitive dissonance is challenging to say the least!