Living with a narcissistic husband often includes a pattern of constant criticism, where he belittles your choices, interests, or personality, making you feel “less than” in every way. A cruel spouse may discourage or subtly sabotage your connections with family and friends, leaving you more is...
My introduction began with a divorce. My husband was a stealth narcissist. I had no idea until one day he announced, “I owe you a lot of money.” He proceeded to tell me he kept a double set of books and hid money. I chronicle the long and involved journey of that in a book I...
Still, the word is mostly accurate for me on this cold bright Winter Solstice.* Ever since my parents died decades ago, I have had a complicated relationship with Christmas (see Humbug, Maybe from December 2012). I remain agnostic about many things in this life. However, I still love holi...
And a reminder: If your library, school, or organization is looking for a speaker, we are often available to talk about the writing process, research, where we get our ideas, and other mysteries of the business, along with the very popular “Making a Mystery” with audience participation, ...
There’s ananecdotethat Woodman was asked by a friend, why she obsessively photographed herself. Her friend may have found it oddly narcissistic and simply still unusual. Because we mustn’t forget that Woodman created all of these self-portraits in the mid and late seventies – so long before...
There’s a Noir at the Bar at Cafe Avellino on 2/20 in Swampscott, MA that John Nardizzi is organizing with a some amazing New England crime writers (including me). If you’re in the North Shore, come check it out. Finally – I had the chance to attend the Maine Crime Writer’s...
Cooking.My passion for cooking faded away in 2022. I didn’t have the drive or ambition to do it. I didn’t feel like eating either – which worked out well for a while until I lost too much weight. However, that spark has returned with a vengeance. I relish searching for recipes,...
Jess: It’s a bit of a mind bend. Clayton: Yes. So, when you have no choice, this is the way out. When you have no choice there is only one choice. The notion of fate plays no part in it. In the West we have forgone the idea of fate. It’s such a narcissistic culture tha...
Doeshehave a narcissistic disorder? That was a rhetorical question. Doeshehave high emotional IQ (as to others)? Undoubtedly.Heis a tremendous salesman. Willheusehispowers to punishhisenemies (real and imagined) and states that went for Hillary? Undoubtedly. ...
My mom needed memory care, her husband assisted living. He could have stayed with her in memory care, but he didn't want to spend his time there. Initially, on a daily basis, he would take mom to lunch in assisted living and return her to memory c...