The first is a writing suite at selfauthoring.com, which helps people organize their past and present, and make a plan for the future. The second is a self-assessment at understandmyself.com, which gives people a scientifically valid personality test using the Big 5 personality traits theory...
And about the text message, you can say something like, "I could tell from your text that you were really angry and that you felt I wronged you, and I can understand why you felt that way. I appreciate why you felt the need to say that. But I'm also very hurt myself that you ...