Ajahn Brahm explains the idea of "Teflon Mind"in this humorous and inspirational talk. The British-Australian Buddhist monk advises that the best way to let go of something that hurts is not to let it stick first. Letting go of the past is not forgetting what happened, but to let go of...
If a person has ever wronged you, you know that it can be challenging to let go of your anger towards them. When someone hurts you, it feels natural to close yourself off to that person and hold on to resentment. Holding a grudge is a self-protective measure that keeps you safe from ...
It takes 10,000 hours of doing something to become an expert at it. All of us, as adults have spent 10,000 hours thinking about something. Our past we have spent so many hours processing. How much of it is along the lines of – What hurts me? How do I protect myself? vs. How ...
Many people find it hard to let go of the past and find themselves holding onto situations, people, or mistakes. It’s human nature to focus on the negatives sometimes. This is often called rumination. Ruminationmeans dwelling on negative thoughts and experiences, sort of like getting stuck in...
Ah, he/she/they didn’t mean to do that. Just forgive, forget and move on. Are you serious? Well, what’s the big deal? What’s done is done and it’s over. Move on already. Well, the big deal is that it really hurts, our hearts are broken into a million trillion pieces ...
Getting stuck ruminating on the past only leads to bitterness, disappointment, and grief.Why not identify the story of “how things should have gone” and release it? Some examples of these “should” stories are,“He should have listened to me more and been more grateful for all that I...
Our motive is to move our lives past bitter obsession. When we have truly completed the process of forgiveness, what happened between us and the other person is no longer a “live” issue in the way we think of or relate to the person, or in the way we live our lives. Signs of ...
Don’t live in the past.Learn how to forgive and move on from past hurts. And, don’t obsess over your recent accomplishments. Instead, use both experiences to grow. Stop worrying about tomorrow.It doesn’t exist. But, telling yourself that doesn’t always silence these thoughts. Try comi...
Losing love is a bit like losing a piece of yourself. It’s hard, and it hurts. But it’s okay to feel that pain. Let those tears flow if they come, get mad if you need to, or just sit quietly with your feelings. This is you, getting to know the real, raw you, and it’s...
We all have a past filled with memories—both good and bad—that shape who we are today. We might feel stuck, unable to let go of the hurt, anger...