There is only one kind of treatment of this kind: passive aggressive silent treatment. This means that you are aggressive towards the other person without actually attacking them. In the same time it is also a kind of emotional abuse silent treatment. If you come to think of it this way, ...
The narcissist creates a looping cycle where they poke, prod, and manipulate you, and you emotionally react. Each reaction feeds them and their sense of power and control. To go “gray rock” is to break this cycle. To do so, stop engaging with them. Become boring, flat, and ...
Silent treatment is not the right way to handle a situation, especially when done out of spite or to punish the partner. If one really needs to take some time to cool off, or just needs space to clear their mind, the same should be communicated to the partner. If you give the silent...
Because narcissists blame-shift and struggle to take responsibility, the best way to handle their actions is to step away and assess the situation. Can you let this go? Or does it require a confrontation? If you choose to address the issue with the narcissist, go in with your eyes wide ...
Moving forward, any time I write “narcissist,” know that I’m talking about everyone who shows high levels of narcissistic traits, not just those with NPD. How to Break Up With a Narcissist Partner A narcissistic partner can really wear you down. Between the manipulation and verbal abuse,...
When a narcissist is cheating, they will think you are too or may flip the script to make it seem that way. Your narcissist counterpart almost certainly has a distorted notion that showing a strong aversion towards infidelity won’t make you suspicious of them. They will typically do this wh...
1) Recognize the abuse Emotions are a tricky thing. It’s not uncommon to be in denial when we’re being abused. This is especially true with the narcissist whose methods are typically very subtle. Narcissistic abusebrings to mind the parable of the frog placed in hot water. Do you know...
The behaviors below can happen throughout any of these stages and they repeat. I like to use the analogy of a washing machine because being in any relationship with a narcissist makes you crazy as you are loved and idealized, then put down, dumped and picked back up again on a hoover. ...
You're in a difficult situation and shouldn't be trying to handle it all alone. I wish you and your mother well. Question: My 15-year-old (step)daughter finally got to move in with us. Her mother has been plain cruel. Along with therapy, are there any books you th...
How should I handle this? I know giving the cold shoulder isn’t a good way to deal with it, but I don’t know what to do! How do I put my foot down and not allow him to “fight unfairly” with me and not resort to giving him the cold shoulder? If he is refusing to budge...