There are costs to people-pleasing. When in the habit of putting our own needs on the back burner, they go left unmet in relationships. A healthy relationship balances the needs of the self with the needs of the other. When putting others' needs in front of your own, you will eventually...
If you struggle with people-pleasing tendencies, make this the year you break free from that exhausting pattern for good. Behaviors like avoiding conflict, the inability to say ‘no,’ and putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own often stem from
A boundary is naming what we can or cannot do for other people (i.e., “I’m not going to be able to talk to you if you call me while you’re drunk”), while a request is asking someone do something for us (“Could you please stop calling me while you’re intoxicated?”). B...
Wanting to make people happy in and of itself isn't necessarily a bad thing. But valuing someone else's happiness is different than people-pleasing, or constantly twisting yourself to accommodate other people. Kati Morton, LMFT, says that people-pleasing is something many of us learn growing ...
But depending on the validation you get from others in order to feel emotionally whole will ultimately lead to your undoing. People pleasing involves putting others’ needs before your own. If you’re so busy being a people pleaser, who’s going to take care of you? You can still be a ...
Think of your people-pleasing tendency as a bully — an insecure part of yourself that needs your help. It’s challenging enough being ahighly sensitive introvert. We don’t need to add anything else to it. But for many of us, we don’t have a choice. Because like it or not, we’...
People pleasing, the tendency to prioritize other people’s wants and needs at the expense of your own, happens for a range of reasons, said Ilene Cohen, a therapist and author of “When It’s Never About You.” Some of us formed the habit as children and carried it into adulthood, sh...
5 Ways to Stop the People-Pleasing Habit Plan ahead— One of the easiest ways to get talked into filling your day with commitments that are priorities for other people is to neglect planning for those that are important toyourself. One way to avoid that situation is to put them on your ...
4. Let go of people pleasing. It’s wonderful to do nice things for other people but when you continually sacrifice your own time and energy, disappointing yourself to please others, it’s time to check in on your motivation. What do you get from the pleasing part? The most painful part...
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