Learn more Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection Julie and John Gottman | Harmony (2024) This talk was presented at an official TED conference. Read our curation guidelines. Explore more relationship tools and resources from The Gottm...
In Fight Right , we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique ...
Whereas if you don’t respect each other, or if you don’t respect yourself, even the slightest of issues can lead to a huge fight or a breakup. If you believe you and your ex have respect for each other, and you want to get them back in a healthy relationship, you should first l...
Whereas if you don’t respect each other, or if you don’t respect yourself, even the slightest of issues can lead to a huge fight or a breakup. If you believe you and your ex have respect for each other, and you want to get them back in a healthy relationship, you should first l...
So, bringing up resentments or gripes, even if it starts a fight, can be healthy. Another way to put it, he says: “Dare to take each other on.” When partners stop fighting for their deepest needs, “passion is the first casualty”, Real warns. “Resentment ...
While some issues need to be talked out, Gottman Institute research shows that a huge percentage of disagreements among couples can't be resolved. These issues tend to stem from different preferences, values and expectations. However, rather than being something to worry about or fight about ove...
Understanding how we think helps us understand why we react the way we do to certain situations. Once we understand these thoughts and patterns, we can intentionally decide if we want to hold on to those thoughts or change them to something more realistic. 10. John Gottman. Last but ...
Remind yourself: “My capacity to care is valuable, but not infinite” or “I set healthy boundaries because I respect myself and my partner.” When you acknowledge your worth, you create an internal environment where toxic dynamics can't easily take root. ...
But consider this: Your partner may also be right as well. This baffling idea from Gottman Method couples therapy can help partners relax into a more productive back and forth. Example: One partner can be “right” that they felt insulted while the other partner can also...
To help down-regulate a cascade of physiological reactions, some may engage in what Gottman (1994) describes as “stonewalling,” emotional disengagement that shuts out the other person from having any emotional connection or access to the partner. During an argument or conflict, it ca...