I believe the best way to deal with toxic people is to not deal with them at all; to avoid them. In some cases it may not be an option, but more often than not, it is. This is why I encourage you to really think about the options you truly have with every toxic person in your...
Kids, especially young ones, will take their cues from their parents’ reactions.I know that when my kids have only gotten underwear from other family members but no toy, I tried to act really excited about it and say, “Oh boy! Look at those cool Superman undershorts. You will look s...
You don’t have to explain, justify or defend yourself or deal with a misfired accusation. Remember that. They’ll make you prove yourself to them. They’ll regularly put you in a position where you have to choose between them and something else – and you’ll always feel obliged to ...
Conversely, if you don’t have to interact with your boss daily, focus on protecting your energy. Imagine there’s clear glass between you and the hateful person. Whatever they spew your way, can’t get to you. Wrap yourself in energetic bubble wrap. Since it’s all their issue anyway,...
Knowing that someone dislikes or even hates you can be difficult to deal with. If you’re not able to resolve the conflict, shifting your focus, respecting their boundaries, and connecting with a therapist may all be useful. Read more ...
Also readHOW TO DEAL WITH HAVING AN ESTRANGED ADULT CHILD. This Monday-morning quarterbacking neglects some basic facts about humans: You Can’t Control Other People We surely have influence over our children, but we do not mold them like clay. When they don’t turn out the way we planne...
Unfortunately, social media is a hotbed of cyberbullying, with the most occurring on YouTube, Snapchat, TikTok and Facebook. The bullying can take the form of tagging in rumors, hateful messaging or videos. In fact, according to Security.org, the percentage of young users on these ...
“The overt, hateful stuff is harmful. But the specific stuff is more insidious and leaves me going, ‘Why am I not good enough?’” he says. Potts likens his Grindr use to a gambler at a slot machine. You may lose dozens of times, but then there’s that chance that the hottest ...
Family members telling you what to wear to hide your “flaws,” or hairstyles to try so you look less like your ethnicity and more like a preferred one instead. “You’re really good looking for your size/height/ethnicity, able-bodiedness.” ...
I had already been thinking about the Oslo peace process failing, 9/11, the white supremacist case and then, after Itamar, I said, ‘I need to write about this because the news reports aren’t talking about why these people are doing these hateful acts of violence.’” ...