If it’s difficult to break out of the old thought, try this: wear a rubber band (or a hair band) around your wrist. Every time you catch yourself thinking the old thought, give the band a little flick. This will start to train your mind to let go of the old thoughts that have ...
It’s OK to take a time-out from a family member During one session, my therapist asked, “What do you need right now in this situation?” Without giving it too much thought, I replied, “a break.” I took a step back and concluded that talking to my brother was only causing my ...
Relationships with toxic parents can be hard to walk away from. You may need distance from your parents to create the boundaries that you’re unable to make verbally. Some people cut off from family for that reason or due to unresolved anger and resentment from childhood. Cut-offs may be ...
you’re giving away money that now can no longer be used for your own retirement fund, household needs, or for your kids. If your spouse is tired of you giving your parents money, please listen. The last thing you want to do is make your own marriage unstable to enable your...
Toxic Sexuality: How Disgust at the Thought of Gay Male Sexuality Threatens the Parental Rights of Gay Male ParentsLeinauer, MarkArizona State Law Journal
Overprotective parents can make even the simplest things, like going out with friends and having a boyfriend, into major sources of conflict. This creates long-term problems for the child. Learn some tips on how to get them to give you some freedom.
the hope of love. All relationships can be likened to an addiction, but sometimes the power of this can be self-destructive. When relationships become loveless, hostile, stingy or dangerous, you would think they would be easy to leave, but they can be the hardest ones to walk away from....
at making others feel guilty when they don’t do what they want. This makes it particularly hard to set and maintain firm boundaries with them. But, there is a way out of this dilemma: getting rid of your guilt.It is your own guilt which toxic people use to break down your boundaries...
But it is possible to stop the cycle. Any parent can do it. That's our next post...How to Break the Intergenerational Cycle of Shame.
If the child does what the parent wants them to do, then that child will be praised and valued. If they don't, they may be ignored or criticized. Many children, in a desperate attempt to win over their narcissistic parents, will sacrifice parts of themselves, interests o...