are also so damn perfect in their archetypal performances. Bottomley expertly embodies the kind of capital-L lad that tends to be at the center of matters of consent, oscillating between charming and sleazy. He does an excellent job of hiding his intentions, and an even better job of letting...
Don’t fall for it. It may be charming, but it’s manipulative. If you said “no” and you mean “no,” then it’s “no.” It’s important that you recognize manipulation for what it is. Acknowledge it, and then acknowledge your guilt. Yes, it’s horrible to feel guilty, but i...
Some people can walk into a room and instantly put everyone at ease. Others seem to make teeth clench and eyes roll no matter what they do. A small body of psychology research supports the idea that the way a person t...
Flirting has a bad name. Too often it seems a supreme form of duplicity, a sly attempt to excite another person and derive gratification from their interest without any corresponding wish to go to bed with them. It looks like a manipulative promise of sexual affection that the last moment le...
There are some common traits of gaslighters. They may be very charming and charismatic and may also be very manipulative and controlling. Narcissists can be charming to hook you in, but then their true colors come out by being very critical and judgmental. Narcissists are also often experts...
After all, it’s not like we sat there as a young child scheming up how to develop a manipulative and emotionally fragile shadow as an adult, was it? We didn’t choose to develop a shadow, that’s just how life presented itself within us in this dualistic human realm. ...
When you have a breakup with a girl, some guys become manipulative and form plans and conspiracies to get an ex back in their life again.They don’t care much about what broke the relationship but rather how to get back to dating or in a relationship again. Don’t be that guy! Who ...
Narcissists can be very charming and tempting. They know how to make you feel special with their talks because it works for them too. However, in the long run, you’ll soon realize that not only will they often be emotionally unavailable, but they may also be abusive. Not all people re...
Learn to identify their tactics. Dr. George Simon, author ofIn Sheep’s Clothing—Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People, presents this list of14 tacticsthat manipulators use to get you to do what they want. He points out the importance of recognizing that these tactics areoffensivemo...
I’m sympathetic to both sides of the dating spectrum. I feel for the women who just want Prince Charming to fall from the sky. I feel for the men who’ve retreated online because real world dating is too depressing. As women, we sometimes forget that men are human, too. They lose ...