Falling in love is not always easy, you may struggle to find a person that you connect with or to open up to other people. If you can't fall in love, whether due to low self-esteem, or not having your needs met, you may benefit from couples counseling or
One of the things that I gathered from the conversation is that it's not a case of the easily cited "if you're not X (or Y) then you're bad", but instead the more nebulous implication of "everyone is X (or Y)". I could be entirely wrong about that (and if so, ignore this...